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From Surviving to Thriving: Choosing Self-Trust Over Self-Reliance

Growing up, I learned that being independent was something to be proud of. While self-reliance can be a strength, it can also become a trap when it’s the only tool we use. Asking for help feels uncomfortable and often leads to a tug-of-war between the part of me that wants to power through on my own, and the part that longs to reach out but hesitates.
That’s where self-trust makes the difference. Instead of proving we can carry it all, self-trust helps us know when to rest, when to ask for support, and when to let ourselves soften.

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Animal-Assisted Therapy

Therapy with Heart – And Fur Sometimes words aren’t enough. For clients who feel stuck, shut down, or like they’re carrying a weight no one

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Faith-Integrated Therapy

Where Emotional Healing Meets Spiritual Depth For many of our clients, faith isn’t separate from life – it is the framework through which life is

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Cuffing Season

Don’t Ignore the Red Flags During the holidays people tend to rush into relationships and/or ignore red flags. Most people want to be in a

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EMDR for Children
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EMDR: Therapeutic Technique For Children

What Does EMDR Look Like for Children? EMDR for children involves a structured eight-phase process, incorporating bilateralstimulation through guided eye movements, tactile tapping, or auditory

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4 Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Stick (and 4 Tips That Actually Create Change)

New Year’s resolutions often fail—not because of laziness or lack of willpower, but because they’re built on pressure, shame, and unrealistic expectations. This post explores why change doesn’t stick and what actually creates sustainable growth rooted in self-compassion, nervous system support, and small, meaningful shifts.

When Sexual Desire Is Out of Sync

Few things create as much quiet tension in a relationship as mismatched sexual desire. When one partner feels rejected, and the other feels pressured, it’s easy to wonder what’s gone wrong. This post explores why desire differences are so common, what they’re really about (hint: it’s rarely just sex), and how couples can move out of painful cycles and back toward safety, connection, and closeness.

5 Myths About Grief and Loss

Grief doesn’t follow a neat timeline or a set of predictable stages. In this article, we explore five common myths about grief and loss—and the compassionate truths that can help you better understand your experience and feel less alone.

Eating Disorders - It's Not About the Food

By Kelly Lopez

If it’s not about the food, what is it really about?

The eating disorder serves a function, it does a job. Despite the problems an eating disorder creates, it is an effort to cope, shield against, communicate, and solve problems. Behaviors may be a way to establish a sense of power or control, self-worth, strength, and containment. Bringing may be used to numb pain. Purging may be a way to release emotions. When one cannot cope in healthy ways, adaptive functions (behaviors) are created to ensure a sense of safety, security, and control.
According to Carolyn Costin*, some of the “adaptive functions that eating disorder behaviors commonly serve are”:
It’s not about the food, it’s a way of coping with low self-esteem, negative emotions, physical, emotional, and sexual abuse, unstable home, difficulty resolving conflict and much more.
*Costin, Carolyn. The Eating Disorder Sourcebook: A Comprehensive Guide to the Causes, Treatments and Prevention of Eating Disorders. 3rd. edition, McGraw Hill, 2007.
Fuller, Kristen. “Eating Disorders: It’s Not All about Food.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 22 Mar. 2017