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ADHD for Children and Teenagers

What Is ADHD Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) poses unique challenges for children and teenagers, particularly in focusing, organizing tasks, and maintaining attention. Recognizing signs of inattention

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Relationship Therapy

 While many clients come to us for help with romantic relationships, we also support those navigating parenting challenges, family dynamics, and even professional relationships that

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bonds
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Bonds: Wired in Our DNA

As mammals we are wired in our DNA for bonding. Our brain is flooded with happy chemicals and hormones when we feel loved and love

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Trauma Healing
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Trauma Healing

Trauma Therapy That Helps You Feel Safe in Your Own Skin Again Because healing doesn’t mean pretending it never happened. Trauma changes everything—how you think,

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Grief and Loss

Grief & Loss Counseling When Life Breaks Your Heart, Therapy Can Help You Carry the Pieces Grief and loss are an inescapable part of the

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Child/Family Therapy

Ideally children grow up in an environment where loving parents meet their physical and emotional needs on a consistent basis. When your child learns to

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4 Reasons Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Stick (and 4 Tips That Actually Create Change)

New Year’s resolutions often fail—not because of laziness or lack of willpower, but because they’re built on pressure, shame, and unrealistic expectations. This post explores why change doesn’t stick and what actually creates sustainable growth rooted in self-compassion, nervous system support, and small, meaningful shifts.

When Sexual Desire Is Out of Sync

Few things create as much quiet tension in a relationship as mismatched sexual desire. When one partner feels rejected, and the other feels pressured, it’s easy to wonder what’s gone wrong. This post explores why desire differences are so common, what they’re really about (hint: it’s rarely just sex), and how couples can move out of painful cycles and back toward safety, connection, and closeness.

5 Myths About Grief and Loss

Grief doesn’t follow a neat timeline or a set of predictable stages. In this article, we explore five common myths about grief and loss—and the compassionate truths that can help you better understand your experience and feel less alone.

Eating Disorders - It's Not About the Food

By Kelly Lopez

If it’s not about the food, what is it really about?

The eating disorder serves a function, it does a job. Despite the problems an eating disorder creates, it is an effort to cope, shield against, communicate, and solve problems. Behaviors may be a way to establish a sense of power or control, self-worth, strength, and containment. Bringing may be used to numb pain. Purging may be a way to release emotions. When one cannot cope in healthy ways, adaptive functions (behaviors) are created to ensure a sense of safety, security, and control.
According to Carolyn Costin*, some of the “adaptive functions that eating disorder behaviors commonly serve are”:
It’s not about the food, it’s a way of coping with low self-esteem, negative emotions, physical, emotional, and sexual abuse, unstable home, difficulty resolving conflict and much more.
*Costin, Carolyn. The Eating Disorder Sourcebook: A Comprehensive Guide to the Causes, Treatments and Prevention of Eating Disorders. 3rd. edition, McGraw Hill, 2007.
Fuller, Kristen. “Eating Disorders: It’s Not All about Food.” Psychology Today, Sussex Publishers, 22 Mar. 2017